Home is not just where you live, it has a singular meaning and emotional status for us. Americans in particular have a funny relationship with “home.” Part of the american dream seems to be constantly upgrading to an ever bigger and more luxurious home. On the other hand, an astounding number of people are embracing the tiny home movement, taking a 180 away from the McMansion. What does it all mean?
In addition to the physiological relationships we have with our homes, I’m inviting my clients and readers to delve deeper into the psychological component of home. By analyzing our motivations, desires, and expectations regarding the home, we can break out of the cycle of constantly moving to “bigger and better.” We can find out what we really want and need: a home that nourishes our psyches and protects our health.
Here are a few questions to get you thinking in this way. Feel free to share your responses and reactions with us!
- What was your favorite place to be as a child? Think about that place. What was the light like? Do you remember any smells? Any colors or shapes or textures? What was it about this place that felt good to you?
- Do you have a place like this in your life now? If not, how can you create one?
In case you need some guidance, I’ll go first.
My favorite indoor place when I was a child was my grandmother’s art studio which was a sunroom. It was bright and full of light, yet also made cozy by the leafy trees that surrounded it. There was a large table full of arts and crafts supplies where I was allowed to play and create. I see a reflection of this place in my own desire for large windows and green vistas, and my desire to have my office in a sunroom. When I search for my next home, I will look for one with a sunroom for my office. I have also always wanted a table dedicated to artistic endeavors and think this place is at the root of that longing. Adding a small art table to my home shouldn’t be too difficult. I’m making it a goal for this month!
Everyone has a different childhood relationship with home and place. I’d love to hear about yours!
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And If you’re enchanted by this topic as much as I am you might want to check out the fascinating book House as a Mirror of the Self.